Reflections of HOPE: Holding onto anger

Holding onto anger is something we are all guilty of.  However, holding onto anger doesn't make the situation any better, it only makes you feel worse.  Let it go, because its not about you and them.  Let it go, because you will feel better.  Let it go because your thoughts are clouded and you are blaming everyone and not seeing through the clouds.  Let it go, because you are loved and the stress is just not worth it.  Stop and think, if you are both wrong work together to mend the relationship, try to compromise and not hurt other relationships in the progress.  You are not wrong for feeling the way you do, just remember you are loved.  

Reflections of HOPE: the transformation

The TRANSFORMATION

I was sitting on my deck yesterday and saw a beautiful tiger swallowtail butterfly.  I began to think of the journey this butterfly was on.

The Caterpillar stage, eats and eats to build strength.  He tries to stay hidden from the various birds and crows that try to call him lunch.  He tries to blend in, pulls a leaf over his head, and eats some more.  It is a true struggle being a Caterpillar.  Facing fears, inching along, and trying to survive.  The Caterpillar stage reminds me of our demons, we try to stay hidden from the crows or dangers of our demons.  Sometimes the Caterpillar gives up because the struggle is too much to survive.  The goal to any Caterpillar it to gain strength, and security in a cocoon.

The cocoon stage is the safe stage.  We have learned to say no.  We have learned to cope with our past.  We have embraced our future.  The cocoon stage is where we need to get to, to embrace hope for a better future.  This stage is the longest.  It answers all the questions we may have, builds confidence, and even begins to map out what our future looks like.  This stage can take all the time they need to figure out what exactly they need to be and where they need to go...

The final stage is the transformation.  This is when we have achieved all of our goals.  This is the safe place within us that understands our path, our journey.  It is filled with inner peace, and reflection.  It allows us to soar above the trees to a better greatness.  This final stage is knowing who we really are and embracing the journey of where we have been.

Understanding the journey makes the final transformation stage worth living........ 

Reflections of HOPE: 5 ways to boost yourself up after loosing confidence

5 ways to boost yourself up after loosing confidence

1) talk in the mirror.  Tell yourself, if you believe you can achieve.  Tell yourself you are beautiful and you are smart.  Tell yourself that you can recognize the triggers and walk away.  Tell yourself you are too important to not put first.  The more you believe it, the more your confidence will build up.  You are WORTH IT.

2) Give yourself a healthy gift.  Join a gym, get a yogurt smoothie, get a mani pedi.  Make yourself feel good by doing something healthy.  Go for a walk on beach, have a picnic!  These things make you appreciate life!

3) Pay it Forward.  Doing good for someone else always makes us feel good!  Pay for someones coffee or toll on parkway...:)

4) Get a job.  Working helps keep our mind off of things.  Get a job, or two and work your butt off.  This will make you feel important because someone is relying on you to be responsible.

5) Volunteer at your local non-profit!  This will help by giving back to the community.


Surround yourself with positive people and remember to call someone when you feel weak.  
REMEMBER WHATEVER JOURNEY YOU ARE ON, ADDICTION, GRIEF, DEPRESSION.... 
If you stay positive, know your triggers, and stay healthy, you are on the road to recovery.  Day by day.

Reflections of HOPE: 5 ways to stay happy

We go through our trials and tribulations in life and sometimes it is so hard to put a smile on our faces.  I am giving you 

5 ways that I stay happy.  

1)  Learn to say NO!

This is probably the most important.  Putting yourself FIRST!  Some of you who are selfish by nature this does not apply too.  For the rest of us,  we tend to be people pleasing, and help everyone but ourselves.  What happens is you wear yourself down to the point of no return.   You could start to be depressed, have low self esteem, fatigue and stressed.  This can lead to high blood pressure and other medical conditions.  Learn to say no and you will have more time and energy for you!

2) Surround yourself with positive people.

This is a no brainer.  When we surround ourselves with positive people we tend to mimic their actions.  We tend to be more confident and less stressed.  We tend to be more successful in our everyday life.  When people boost us up, we become confident!!!

3) Eat clean.

Eating clean mean nothing fried or processed.  Eating clean can give us more energy and make us feel better about ourselves.  Getting the right amount of fruits and veggies each day will help with your overall health.  Eating low carbs and high protein will help with energy as well.

4) Drinking your water.

Everyone goes by the basis of 8 glasses of 8 ozs a day.  I feel this is wrong.  You should be drinking one half your body weight in ounces a day.  So if you are 120 pounds you should drink 60 ounces, 200 pounds drink 100 ounces.  You get the point.  This helps with keeping your skin hydrated and it also boosts your metabolism.

5) Keeping organized 

Helps with staying happy.  Well it does for me!  If you are organized in your thoughts and in your home, you will tend to be more organized in everyday living.  This will take less time to get ready in morning, less time to clean, less time to run errands, less time to get confused and distracted.  If you have a goal, being organized is the first step in reaching that goal.  Developing a strategic plan will help ensure your goal is met with the least amount of time..

Reflections of HOPE: being positive

Look forward, start each day with a positive outlook.... Don't let people bring you down and remember to smile.

Reflections of HOPE: moving forward

 "Learn to incorporate the past into your present.  For example, when my daughter died, I felt so raw with emotion.  I decided to stop living in the darkness and incorporate her into my everyday living. This takes time and patience.  Do not beat yourself up if this doesn't happen right away, this took me years to understand how, but now she is apart of my everyday, my light, my reflection of hope." 

Reflections of HOPE: Positive life

Living a positive life certainly has its challenges.  When we are caught up in everyday hustle and bustle, we tend to mimic what others do. 

 I challenge you to change the world with me.  It seems like a huge task, however it starts with just one person. 

THIS WEEKS CHALLENGE

 When someone asks you,"how are you today?" 

don't just reply with something like the hum drum 

"I am ok"....

Instead say,

" I am SUPER Fantastic today thank you, how are you?"  

I guarantee you that you will put a smile on that persons face... 

IT'S THAT SIMPLE :)

WHO IS IN????