Margaret's Reflections of HOPE: How it started

She planted a seed. 
A seed of light,
It shines within me daily

REFLECTIONS OF HOPE: EMBRACE the RIDE

Reflections of HOPE: Embracing the Ride

What is the worst roller coaster ride in your life?

Divorce? Loss of a baby? a diagnosis? death of a loved one? suicide?

Whatever troubles you, you MUST embrace the ride.  

Step 1- get on ride, when you are forced to face your fears, it is best to just get on with it.  Go through the motions.  You may anticipate the ride with fear, however you sit and hold on tight

Step 2- safety belt.  Make sure your ride is safe, Don't seek out a blindfold or anything that can make the ride easier to handle.  In order to get to the end of the journey you must start at the beginning. 

Step 3- when the coaster is climbing up the hill, dig your feet in to the ground, usually anticipation is far worse then the actual drop.  

Step 4- Enjoy the easy parts.  Let yourself smile, and feel the wind blowing in your hair.  Give yourself credit for coming this far. 

Step 5- When the coaster is full of twist and turns dark tunnels and sometimes knocking you around, just hold on, breathe, Each day you are on this coaster, the more strong you become.  Remember these times, embrace them.  

The Final Step- When you get off the ride, you feel a sense of empowerment, feel proud,  But the truth is, its devastating. It is a horrible ride, one you would never have your worse enemy go on.  You now realize, the ride sucks and will never change, but we change and we get more tolerant to these quick twists and upside down feelings....

In order to heal, embrace the ride.

Reflections of HOPE: Be Still

Be still for awhile
No worries no concern

Be still for a moment
No fear of the unknown

Be still for a day
Let your thoughts  be free

Be still forever
As I always feel you near me....

Margarets Reflections of HOPE: self confidence

I am beautiful, under the layers of pain

I am smart, without the degree to blame

I am sexy, behind this opaque curtain

I am strong, for this I know is certain

I am confident, behind this mask.....

so-

I am accepting, an unworthy task

To remove each layer for bare skin to show

To be vulnerable and learn as I go

To be attractive for the world to see

To be as BOLD as I can possibly be.  

I am so confident, behind this mask

Help me remove it, help is what I ask

and show me the mirror so I can see,

Just how beautiful, I can be.

Margaret's Reflections of HOPE: Trust and Breathe

Trust..... Breathe........ Repeat......

Reflections of HOPE: Make Life Matter to just ONE person at a time.

HAVE YOU HEARD OF THE STORY OF THE YOUNG MAN AND THE STARFISH-  ?

A young man is walking along the ocean and sees a beach on which thousands and thousands of starfish have washed ashore. Further along he sees an old man, walking slowly and stooping often, picking up one starfish after another and tossing each one gently into the ocean. “Why are you throwing starfish into the ocean?,” he asks.

 “Because the sun is up and the tide is going out and if I don’t throw them further in they will die.” “
But, old man, don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and starfish all along it! You can’t possibly save them all, you can’t even save one-tenth of them. In fact, even if you work all day, your efforts won't make any difference at all.” The old man listened calmly and then bent down to pick up another starfish and threw it into the sea. “It made a difference to that one"

I just love this story!!!
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Reflections of HOPE: Let it go?

In the era of "let it go" like anna and elsa from frozen, so put it, I feel its so hard to let go when all I want to do is to hold tighter. 

However what if we asked for guidance from a divine source to please take the burden of guilt, anger, sadness away, take it all away so that way I can hang on tighter to my child and embrace with soft loving warmth! 

Put it on the source, it is way to complicated to let it go.... much easier when it is taken from us.

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REFLECTIONS OF HOPE: Energy

Energy

Have you ever felt an energy so powerful?  Just to be in the presence of another human being, feeling their energy.  How does that make you feel?

Bad-negative energy can ruin a groups whole mood.  Just how this particular person moves,talks,walks... They have negative pouring out of them.  Keeping your bodies safe we can clear the energy with a simple dry bathing exercise.  You can practice affirmations to keep the negative out!! 

Breathe and say,"I am a positive person, I will not allow negative to penetrate my barrier"

Good positive energy can be found when you meet a person or group of people who make you feel like you have known them for years.  Their energy is warm and comforting.  Continue to breathe, and say your affirmations except this time say," I thank you for giving me this opportunity to have you in my life."  

I love my positive energy friends.  

Reflections of HOPE: honoring your inner spirit

5 ways to honor your inner spirit or light....

1. Protect that light, it can be blown out very easily by negative energies trying to dim you.
Don't allow that!  Everyone starts off with a beautiful rainbow of colors as their aura.  When negative people, places or energies in general penetrate that rainbow, the colors start to loose their shine!  Protect your aura, protect that light!  The more you protect it the more respect you will have for yourself and others.  You will begin to walk with dignity once again!

2.  Let the light SHINE-  picture yourself with the rainbow around you encompassing the whole being.  Then see where the damage is done, you might want to shine up the dull surfaces, open your windows, let the crisp air come in!  As you open up your vocal windows, you pause before you speak.  Conditioning every word.  As you talk ask for assistance.... " help me choose my words with a healthy and compassionate tone.

3.  Focus on your breathing focus on your soul!  As we breath in positive Amber glow we blow out negative dark spaces.

4. Your light will shine longer If you forgive people who new better then to challenge you!  Give them your blessing and wish them well.

5. Love deeply, passionately,and emotionally!  Give your all!  Set boundries and keep the focus pointing straight

Blessed by you all,

Margaret pilon

Reflections of HOPE: 10 things that MAY happen when suffering a tragedy

10 things that MAY happen when suffering a tragedy

1.  People will start to avoid you.  You appear to be contagious and people try to not catch the disease of tragedy.  You may feel secluded.

2. The people who do not avoid you, will without a doubt say the stupidest things.  "It was meant to be."  "Everything happens for a reason." "They are in a better place now."  Really? are these really helpful when someone is grieving? How about, "oh you can always marry again" or " Your young you can try again" "God has another angel." I will write a book to the other people who are friends, co-workers or neighbors of a person who is grieving.  A guide for how to react in tragedy.

3. People will talk about the most insensitive topics.  When getting a divorce...., "Oh thats not so bad, my brothers, friends, cousins, uncle, who works at 31 flavors is getting a divorce and they have it really bad, its word that HE stole ALL the money"  OR "I am so sorry you have cancer, you know I have an aunt who just died of cancer!" REALLY??? where is the hope there? OR "you lost a child? I know exactly how you feel, my grandmother just died." These are just not helpful when trying to be positive.

4.  You may lose friends.  People may not be supportive or patient with your "one day at a time" motto.  You will learn that the people who were left behind, are not meant to be in your life.

5. You may join a support group of peers who know and understand how you  feel.  This support group will re-energize you and make you feel like you are indeed NOT losing your mind.

6.  In this support group, you will start to befriend people who share similar stories and can relate to you.  You feel like you do not have a disease and if you do have a disease, you feel like you can manage it much better with support.

7.  You will begin to understand the people who you have decided to include themselves on this journey.  You will realize, these people were given to you and they are nothing short of a blessing.

8. You will realize the clouds begin to clear and you may be half way out of the storm.

9.  You can smile and joke around.  I remember one time I was at a party and the dreadful topic of pregnancy came up.  All unicorns and happy thoughts and then they asked me, " what's your story, how many kids do you have, was the pregnancy ok?  did you have morning sickness?" I replied, "well my pregnancies were horrible, it took me several years to have my first child, my second has a blood disease and my third died."  <PAUSE>  the look on everyones place was hysterical.  I hate to be insensitive however, I will never ask someone how many kids do you have?  I know too many people that would of been fantastic parents and suffer from infertility.  I know too many people who lost their first child, and guess what, in my eyes, they are parents, however to the public eye they do not see their baby and have absolutely no idea that they truly are parents.  I know too many people that lost their baby and having living children at home.  Those people get crucified because "at least they have children at home," however how do you answer how many?  So you see, sometimes when I feel like being mischievious, I throw out the sucker punch.  Not because I am insensitive, but because, you should never ask how many and assume they do.

10. YOU WILL GAIN FAMILY!  Your support group will in turn end up to be an extended family of friends that will always be there for you.  Your journey will be forever and so much better with your family to support you through it every step of the way.

Margarets Reflections of HOPE: I am BAACKKKKKK

I am back from my hiatus.  I am sorry I left however, I lost my friend and stepmother in November, my husbands grandmother, my two dear friends lost their babies... and my father and a very close friend of mine.  I was (and still am) an emotional wreck.  

I have learned that I handle death very well.  I have an appreciation for the dying process and  I hope and pray that with my messages, I can be that beacon of hope, that support that all of you would need in your time of crisis.  

Love to all.

Margaret

Reflections of HOPE: Saying see you later

My wish for each and every one of you is

 to Hold onto hope and have faith that we

 will all meet again, because death, it is 

not a goodbye, it’s a see you later, and

 heaven is not that far away. 

Reflections of HOPE: 10 things that MAY happen when suffering a tragedy

10 things that MAY happen when suffering a tragedy

1.  People will start to avoid you.  You appear to be contagious and people try to not catch the disease of tragedy.  You may feel secluded.

2. The people who do not avoid you, will without a doubt say the stupidest things.  "It was meant to be."  "Everything happens for a reason." "They are in a better place now."  Really? are these really helpful when someone is grieving? How about, "oh you can always marry again" or " Your young you can try again" "God has another angel." I will write a book to the other people who are friends, co-workers or neighbors of a person who is grieving.  A guide for how to react in tragedy.

3. People will talk about the most insensitive topics.  When getting a divorce...., "Oh thats not so bad, my brothers, friends, cousins, uncle, who works at 31 flavors is getting a divorce and they have it really bad, its word that HE stole ALL the money"  OR "I am so sorry you have cancer, you know I have an aunt who just died of cancer!" REALLY??? where is the hope there? OR "you lost a child? I know exactly how you feel, my grandmother just died." These are just not helpful when trying to be positive.

4.  You may lose friends.  People may not be supportive or patient with your "one day at a time" motto.  You will learn that the people who were left behind, are not meant to be in your life.

5. You may join a support group of peers who know and understand how you  feel.  This support group will re-energize you and make you feel like you are indeed NOT losing your mind.

6.  In this support group, you will start to befriend people who share similar stories and can relate to you.  You feel like you do not have a disease and if you do have a disease, you feel like you can manage it much better with support.

7.  You will begin to understand the people who you have decided to include themselves on this journey.  You will realize, these people were given to you and they are nothing short of a blessing.

8. You will realize the clouds begin to clear and you may be half way out of the storm.

9.  You can smile and joke around.  I remember one time I was at a party and the dreadful topic of pregnancy came up.  All unicorns and happy thoughts and then they asked me, " what's your story, how many kids do you have, was the pregnancy ok?  did you have morning sickness?" I replied, "well my pregnancies were horrible, it took me several years to have my first child, my second has a blood disease and my third died."  <PAUSE>  the look on everyones place was hysterical.  I hate to be insensitive however, I will never ask someone how many kids do you have?  I know too many people that would of been fantastic parents and suffer from infertility.  I know too many people who lost their first child, and guess what, in my eyes, they are parents, however to the public eye they do not see their baby and have absolutely no idea that they truly are parents.  I know too many people that lost their baby and having living children at home.  Those people get crucified because "at least they have children at home," however how do you answer how many?  So you see, sometimes when I feel like being mischievious, I throw out the sucker punch.  Not because I am insensitive, but because, you should never ask how many and assume they do.

10. YOU WILL GAIN FAMILY!  Your support group will in turn end up to be an extended family of friends that will always be there for you.  Your journey will be forever and so much better with your family to support you through it every step of the way.

Margaret's Reflection's of HOPE: Balancing your LIFE

5 Ways to Balance Your Life

1. Take part in physical activity.  Go for a walk and re-energize your soul.  Exercise is key to balancing your life.


2.  Establish boundaries.  Leave work at work and learn to say NO!  Sometimes we are willing to help everyone else and we are fading away.   Learning that it is OK to put our needs in front of others is a part of a guilt free, balanced life.


3.  Remember to put down the computer, phone or remote control and make eye contact with your significant other.  Having special time and respect for each other will help you re-connect or stay connected.  Your balanced life will be full of joy when we all feel important to one another.


4.  Drink plenty of water.  Drinking 1/2 of your body weight in ozs. per day will increase energy and flush out toxins.  A body full of toxins has a hard time balancing.  Drink water to keep the balance.


5.  Choose a skill or talent and excel at it.  A healthy self-esteem is necessary if you want to keep your life in sync.  You will feel good when you cultivate something that you are really great at.

Margaret's Reflection's of HOPE: feeling blessed

My daughter is honored on 3 Angel of Hope monuments, Washington State, Florida and in New Jersey.  This is proof that these group of men and women that I so honorably call family can change the world, even if it is honoring one baby at a time.  Feeling very blessed.  

Reflections of HOPE: Bittersweetness

Bittersweetness

I have been meaning to write about this scenario.  We lost Maddy in 2009.  Phoebe was born in 2012.  There is no way the two sisters have EVER met, unless you believe the big ole' playground in the sky has many spirits and angels that interact.  How do you feel about the after life?  Here is what happened.....

One of my dearest friends came over with a gift for Phoebe.  There was 2 porcelain dolls that were absolutely beautiful.  They both had linen and lace dresses, with a beautiful bonnet.  There was a sense about these dolls.  Colleen's mother, who bought the dolls, passed them up a few times before taking the plunge to buy them.  They were resting in a second hand shop.  When Mrs. C saw the beauties, she knew she wanted them but didn't know right away who to buy them for.  Once Phoebe had the dolls in her possession, she immediately decided to name them Maddy and Phoebe.  She proceeded to tell me that they are sisters that play together.  Phoebe has been putting the babies to sleep, taking them for a stroll, and talking to them everyday.

She started talking to Maddy's photos on the wall, even more intently.  I found Phoebe dancing and singing while she plays, talks and laughs all by herself.  If Phoebe notices anyone looking at her during this time, she immediately gets offended.  She will scream, NOOOOO and make us leave her alone.  I can't help but wonder, what if?

The past few weeks, I have been feeling more connected to Maddy for some reason.   I am not sure why she died, but she did and now this is the relationship that we have.  I am so memorized that Phoebe acts like Maddy is here, in the flesh.  I am so glad we found a way to incorporate my first daughter, in our daily lives and I am even more honored that my children feel her.

Reflections of HOPE: How to be a reflection

Reflections of HOPE: First step on being positive....

Being Positive

Be positive. Look on the “can do” side of things rather than the “can’t do”. You’ve accomplished lots in your life and you will accomplish lots more in the future.

Be in charge of your thoughts at all times. 

What is a thought? It’s just a question that you’ve asked yourself and the thought is you’re answer. If you’re thinking negative thoughts, you’re probably asking a negative question. Change the questions to be more positive.

Whenever you feel a negative thought coming, STOP, THINK, and say is this really important in the grand scheme of things?

Do you let the words of others affect you? Do you mind what they think of you? Remember that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. It’s not what they say to you that’s the problem it’s what you say to yourself after they have stopped talking that’s the problem.

  Change the way you think.

Reflections of HOPE- Change is GOOD

What is the biggest change you would like to make in your life?  

Do you have enough support to do it right?

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Think about it, you can be or do anything your heart desires.

What are your desires?

Are you happy? 

After every rainstorm, if there is light, you will transform into a beautiful rainbow.....

Reflections of HOPE: Embracing the Ride

What is the worst roller coaster ride in your life?

Divorce? a diagnosis? death of a loved one? loss of a job or security?

Whatever troubles you, you MUST embrace the ride.  

Step 1- get on ride, when you are forced to face your fears, it is best to just get on with it.  Go through the motions.

Step 2- safety belt.  Make sure your ride is safe, Don't seek out a blindfold or anything that can make the ride easier to handle.  In order to get to the end of the journey you must start at the beginning. 

Step 3- when the coaster is climbing up the hill, dig your feet in to the ground, usually anticipation is far worse then the actual drop.  

Step 4- Enjoy the easy parts.  Let yourself smile, and feel the wind blowing in your hair.  Give yourself credit for coming this far. 

Step 5- When the coaster is full of twist and turns and sometimes knocking you around, just hold on.  Each day you are on this coaster, the more strong you become.  Remember these times, embrace them.  

The Final Step- When you get off the ride, you realize it wasn't that bad.  But the truth is, its devastating. It is a horrible ride, one you would never have your worse enemy go on.  You now realize, the ride sucks and will never change, but we change and we get more tolerant to these quick twists and upside down feelings....

In order to heal, embrace the ride.